All aloha aside, I am happy to be back in California visiting with friends and family – some of which I haven’t seen in years. Every time I go back home, I feel as if I’ve spent the last weeks and months and years in a proverbial Narnia; so much time has passed, yet everything in the real world seems exactly the same.
While I’m here, enjoying the comfortable love and sameness of where I grew up, I notice how much I’ve changed. How the current me is similar to and different from the old me; how the future me may continue to grow. California, for me, is a lot of surfing with my Dad, riding bikes with my siblings, eating Mexican food, and catching up with my Mom. It’s also a lot of self-reflection.
Part of it is being surrounded by people that love me; old friends, a big, supportive family, and the humans that have watched me grow from a stubborn, adventurous child into a stubborn, adventurous adult. As I’ve spent more time with them, I’ve realized just how much I love myself; the person I was, the person I am, and the woman I feel myself becoming.
After a tough year of breakups and the harsh realities of leaving college and entering the workforce, I’ve realized just how important loving yourself is. In fact, it’s crucial. When you’re sure of who you are, it makes you confident in what you do, say, and act. Self-love enables you to think clearly and logically, and to stand your ground in times of uncomfort and conflict.
When you love yourself deeply, the world takes note. Others sense it. Our bosses, coworkers, acquaintances and friends treat us differently when we are comfortable with who we are. Why? Because they see us treat ourselves differently.
When the worst things happen, self-love is the life raft that keeps us afloat. When my fiancé and I broke up, my world fell apart; I had to find a place to live, buy a new car, cancel a wedding, swallow a $1500 venue deposit and walk away from the person I never doubted to be my soul mate. There was a lot of crying and nightmares and despair, but I made it through. I honestly felt as if I separated into two people; the sad, broken me and the tough, lets-get-through-this me. We took care of each other, supported each other, and, over time, have reunited to forge a much stronger, savvier, and happier me.
Today’s Motivation Monday is all about self-love. Of course, this applies to our fitness journeys too. We operate either from a place of love, or fear. When we eat right and exercise because we truly love ourselves, and our bodies, and pull motivation from a place of love, we are unstoppable. Strong. Capable beyond belief.
This quote by Marianne Williamson is, by far, the greatest self-love quote I’ve ever heard:
|“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”|