So far, the extent of my wedding planning has been watching every Bridezillas & Say Yes to the Dress episode in existence. And, of course, countless hours scouring Pinterest for my kick-ass vintage/beachy wedding theme. (Cute, right?)
While my wedding is over a year & a half away, a tough decision has come up over the past few days. Will we be having our wedding here in Hawaii, or back home in California?
I shouldn’t have to be making any crazy decisions (or any decisions, really) for a while. But we have to let our friends & family know pretty far ahead of time if they need to plan on shelling out $800 a person to watch us tie the knot.
The whole conundrum brings up a deeper, more involved question: for our wedding, what’s more important? Getting married in paradise or having our loved ones there?
I’d like to point out that while Hawaii is destination wedding central, ours doesn’t fall in that category. Hawaii is where we live, where we met, and where our love has truly grown. It’s our place and where it all began.
Getting married in Hawaii would be awesome, but both of us believe that family comes first. I’ve always been super close with all of my extended kin. It’s a big part of how I think and who I am.
Plus, I have a pretty huge family. Each of my aunts & uncles have at least three kids, and asking them to shell out a few g’s just to come to my wedding feels kind of unrealistic and unfair. And that’s before rental cars, hotels, and food – all of which are way more expensive on the island.
What makes the choice so tough is that me and Rocky are the oldest among the grandkids and will be the first big wedding in the family. And trust me, neither of our grandmas are women you wanna mess with.
So, we’re getting married on the mainland. As much as I adore Hawaii, having family there is what will make or break our wedding. They play such a significant role in our lives that it would be just plain weird not to have them all there. And I’d love to have my best friends, who I’m lucky enough to still be tight with, there for love and support.
Here’s to planning a big, beautiful beach wedding. California is far from ugly, and unlike the island, we have a zillion venues to choose from. We can still get married on the beach and party like rock stars after – with all the people we love.
Cheers to friends & family,